5 Amazing Essential Oil Blends for A Positive Experience with Aromatherapy

Aromatherapy Kit

Aromatherapy - Does it Really Have Any Benefits?

Firstly, let's go back to the basics and briefly discuss what aromatherapy is, in a nutshell. 

Aroma-therapy:  where pleasant aromas become therapists. 

Aromatherapy is the therapeutic use of fragrances (that come from plants and essential oils) for their cognitive benefits, to improve mood, or promote psychological and physical well-being.

Does it Really "Work?"

Research actually has suggested that aromatherapy has many beneficial effects. For example, peppermint oil is shown to improve brain and cognitive function and even headaches while lavender is commonly known for its calming and sedative effects.

Back in November, one of my favorite organic skincare companies, Annmarie Gianni, released their line of Pure Essential Oil Blends. So now that I've had the pleasure of sampling all 5 blends over the course of 3 months now, I've decided it was time to discuss aromatherapy and its benefits (as well as how these essential oils worked out for me) here at Healthy, Happy, Whole.

Annmarie Gianni's line of Pure Essential Oil Blends are designed to promote harmony and well-being using pure, high-grade essential oils. 

 The 5 blends are: Love, Passion, Calm, Vibrance, and Grounded. I just want to take a moment now to say how perfect these blends are. Annmarie Gianni really thought of it all when designing an essential oil line for various... ailments? No, that's definitely not the word I'm looking for. Perhaps "needs" is more suitable. Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that it's great they thought to create these various blends that will balance each other out.

Each of the 5 include a combination of essential oils designed to promote a particular environment or energy. The blend called Love, for example, contains essential oils that carry certain aroma-therapeutic benefits, giving it the ability to invoke a loving energy within the space its used.

Close-up of the little oils

Vibrance - This is our first essential oil blend, which we have already launched in full size.

Essential oils: Ruby grapefruit, lemon, lemon verbena, bergamot, lavender, jasmine sambac  absolute, clementine, rose-geranium

Vibrance is our most uplifting blend. The refreshing notes of citrus bring energy and act as natural antidepressants. Classic florals serve to lift your mood while easing tension. We love wearing this blend at parties and social gatherings, and diffusing through our homes in morning.

Passion
"Indulge, electrify, and be sensual"

Essential oils: Sandalwood, vetiver, frankincense, rose moroc absolute, sweet myrrh, amyris, Buddha wood.

This warm and sweet essential oil blend is designed to help you relax and awaken your sensuality. Earth, grounding notes of vetiver and Buddha wood provide a base for the passion-igniting aromas of rose and sandalwood. This is perfect for a romantic evening, whether you dab a bit on your wrists as a perfume, diffuse through your room, or mix with water and spray on your linens.

Love
"Adore, embrace, and be tender"
 Essential oils: Sandalwood, rose moroc absolute, jasmine sambac absolute, frankincense.

A heart-opening blend of natural aphrodisiac oils to inspire you to be your most loving self. Sweet jasmine and classic rose are balanced with sandalwood and frankincense, for a scent that’s nothing short of irresistible. This blend serves you well when you want to exude love, compassion, and acceptance.

Calm
"Relax, meditate, and be peaceful"
 Essential oils: Spruce, frankincense, rosewood, lavender.

Create a sacred space for yourself where you can breathe deeply and release negativity. Spruce oil lends freshness to this blend of florals, tied together with comforting frankincense for a clean and crisp scent. We love using this blend at the end of the day to help wind down.

Grounded
"Secure, strengthen, and be centered"
 Essential oils: Sandalwood, amyris, ​​Peru balsam, ​cedarwood, ​v​etiver, ​a​mber (fossilized), ​c​opaiba balsam, ​g​alangal root, ​​patchouli, ​g​inger root, ​Buddha wood, ​​turmeric root.

Grounded is an incredibly balanced blend that helps bring you to a place of peace and clarity. Wood and earthy base notes with a touch of sweetness give you a beautifully understated, quietly confident scent. This blend is amazing for diffusing through the room before you do yoga, and is a great blend for those who appreciate a subtle and well-rounded scent.

Uses

As is the case with most essential oils, the Pure Essential Oil Blends from Annmarie Gianni can be used in a diffuser to scent the room and even as a body fragrance.

To use on the body, you can mix a drop of oil with your moisturizer or with a carrier oil like olive oil before applying. Same with a perfume -- just add a tiny drop to your perfume and use a dropper to apply. Or simply dab some onto your wrists, neck, etc.

Warning: Don't apply to your face or mix with your facial moisturizer. While many of the essential oils have great benefits for your skin, it could be risky since they're strong. My biggest concern has been with migraines as the smells tend to trigger migraines for me pretty badly, so having it on my face would be disastrous.

Personally, I've enjoyed using these essential oils to incorporate pleasant, fresh, and beneficial scents into my room. I've even put a few drops in a spritz bottle with water and spritzed my bedding several times. I did this hoping it would give promote calmness while in my bed and maybe even better sleep.

Bonus: Pet odors have nothin' on these essential oils! I noticed my bed sheets were smelling particular clean even though my dog had slept on them (and he was due for a bath, if that tells you anything.) It seems these act as a natural deodorizer, which was a totally appreciated bonus.

Warning: Never apply the oils directly onto your pet! There are too many possible health risks as some essential oils are believed to be toxic to certain pets.

I've also placed a few drops of the oils onto a small drawstring satchel bag and hung it up in my closet.

 For a week or two my clothes smelled better, especially the ones that had been hanging up for months and were smelling "stale" and musky.

Another option is to use the oils as "dryer sheets" to lightly scent your clothes and keep the mood with you wherever you go. Drop some oil onto a scrap of fabric that you don't mind if it leaves a stain (it hasn't in my experience so far.) Or apply it to an old sock or wash cloth, then toss the aromatic fabric into the dryer with your clothes. Vibrance and Love are great for this. Calm may be helpful if you're prone to anxiety or have an outing that you know puts you in an anxious state. Can you say public speaking?

As a body fragrance, I have to be careful using these as I said, I am very migraine prone. However, I've been able to add a tee-tiny drop to special areas of my body that are not close to my face with success. I love the way these smell; if only my head would tolerate scents better!

Overall, using these oil blends has been a very beneficial addition to my everyday routine. I love opening the little vial of "Vibrance" when I'm waking up and getting ready or doing late-night work or just feeling extremely fatigued. 

Calm is the oil I prefer when I'm trying to quieten down to meditate or relax from a stressful day before bed. Passion and Love are absolute God-sends since they're so fun and gentle. Anything that's supposed to add more love is a good thing, right? I like using these in a diffuser in the evenings when I'm spending time with my significant other, or just if I'm in a negative mind-space. You can find the sample kit here.



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Make Healing Water Using Dr. Emoto's Simple Water-Structure-Changing Technique:

Make Healing Water Using Dr. Masaru Emoto's Simple Water-Structure-Changing Technique:

Most of you have heard about the experiment by Dr. Masaru Emoto where he used prayer, music, and writing different words onto pieces of paper and placed them under a container of water to find that the structure of the water changed in such ways that confirmed that the words carry energy/vibration that has the ability to literally change the water's structure. When he examined the samples, he found that the ones that had words such as "love" under them had formed a perfect hexagonal crystal snowflake. Upon examining the samples that had words like "hate," he found the structure to be chaotic and not formed like the snow-flake- looking crystals.

"The result was that we always observed beautiful crystals after giving good words, playing good music, and showing, playing, or offering pure prayer to water. On the other hand, we observed disfigured crystals in the opposite situation. Moreover, we never observed identical crystals," says Dr. Emoto's statement about the experiment on his website.

If you haven't heard of this experiment, I implore you to watch the video below (from Dr. Masaru Emoto's website) before continuing. It's pretty powerful stuff. *You can also visit Dr. Masaru Emoto's website, which talks all about his work and findings.

Now, I'd like to share with you how we might be able to use the wonderful Dr. Emoto's findings to easily change the structure of the water we drink.

When I first read about Dr. Emoto's water experiment, the first thing I did was write the word "love" on a piece of paper, and set my cup of water over it. 30 minutes later, I drank the water.

I've since made a habit of doing this with my water every night. I write the words "love, healing, health, and joy" on the paper and let my glass of water sit on top of it for about 30 minutes before I drink it.

Simple, right? And best of all, it costs nothing really (unless you don't have a writing utensil, a glass for the water, or water.)

I do this with my other beverages as well.

I figure you can also just write the word on the cup/glass. I'm also assuming that this little technique for changing the vibration of something can be used in many, many ways such as with your food and any other thing you consume. In fact, I even wrote it on the stuff I brush my teeth with! I use a blend of oils to brush my teeth with, so I just took a marker (it isn't even visible on the bottle, but I know it's there and that's all that matters) and wrote the words "love, perfect health, joy" on the bottle.

I am not sure what the "rating" of the vibration for the words "perfect health" and "joy" would be, but they are words that feel very powerful and positive to me, and they're in-line with my intentions -- to have perfect health inside out, including dental health, to have and be love and to have joy -- so I figured I'd try those out as well as love.

Let me know if you can think of any other high-vibration words that could be used for certain intentions/desires!

I figured since Dr. Emoto's experiment produced such magnificent results, it would surely work the same way for us if we were to utilize his method for our water, and then drink it. So, since we could all use good health, and since love is the most positive vibration there is, why not attempt to change the water we drink into something that just might encourage healing or good health within us?

Dr. Emoto's experiment was conducted with the intentions of showing that words are powerful enough to impact water and humans. Since we're made up of something like 70 percent water, it would stand to reason that words alone can change the structure within us as well, whether positive or negative.

Dr. Emoto reminded us that the words we use have an impact on every part of our body and we need to be mindful about this.

That's really powerful information that I personally feel like can be utilized for a multitude of magnificent possibilities

We can use this to our benefit, though. It's my thinking that there could be many incredible ways we can use this free information to our benefit.

For the time being, I'm using it to see if perhaps by doing this simple, free "technique" my health can benefit.

I hope you all will join me in this simple experiment and see if you can benefit from it as well. At the very least, this "challenge" (if you'd like to think of it as such) will benefit us in the way that we'll definitely become more mindful of the words we use when we speak to ourselves, right? It might even encourage us to use more positive words when we talk to ourselves (and others), now that we are aware that words probably impact our entire makeup as well.

So, take a minute to repeat the word "love" slowly and deliberately for a few seconds.

I have been letting words like "love" and "health" flow over and over through my mind as I picture the words, noting every syllable and every letter.

Picturing the letters going across my forehead and then absorbing into my brain. Maybe that sounds odd, but when I was deliberately saying the word "love" in my mind, that is the image that popped up -- the word slowly moving across my forehead like those electronic signs you see going down the road, announcing some ad for something or what-not.

Then, the word itself just kind of looked as if it were fading into the area of my head, so I came to the idea that imagining it "absorbing" into my head, and then flowing through my body could be beneficial.


I sincerely hope you guys will join me in this fun, free challenge that just might help improve our health and well-being! It's worth a shot, right? I will be keeping an eye out for any changes or improvements as I continue this (focusing on the water experiment) and then I'll meet you back here to discuss what occurs.

Please, if any of you do this or something similar (you can tweak it to your own needs and desires!) share with me how it goes for you in a comment or in an email or message to me. I always reply to my readers and I love sharing stories and outcomes of our personal journies with each other. It brings me so much joy to share our techniques and results together, so please don't hesitate to jump in and let me know how you do it, and how things turn out! 

Could Love Have the Power to Heal?

Could Love Have the Power to Heal?

Dream Toys 10 function wireless bullet

 Dream Toys is a company that sells adult products. Here, I have a bullet vibrator from Dream Toys. To some of you, this may resemble Evolved Novelties Speeding Bullets Armor Piercing. This is Dream Toys' version.

 The Dream bullet is a gorgeous hot pink color. It's unique hour-glass like shape makes it easy to hold while the tip is pointed for pin point stimulation. The slightly soft plastic makes it easy to grip, even with slippery hands!

  To be such a tiny little guy, this is punchy! It's powerful and buzzy with a variety of speeds and pulsations. The functions include 3 pulsating patterns which were really interesting and 2 steady and strong vibrations. This is one toy that I can enjoy on even the lowest speed! 

  The small 2 1/2" size makes this guy perfect for travel and let me just say, he does wonderfully on a road trip! Only 1 3/4" of the toy is insertable making this great for beginners or a nice tease/foreplay. Circumference is 2 1/2"and the diameter, 3/4". It is also waterproof for a fun time in the bath! There's a secure rubber O-ring to ensure that no water leaks inside the battery compartment. It stays completely dry after washing and playing in water. 


  While using the Dream Bullet after about 20 minutes it felt warm and stopped. I was afraid the thing died already, but after a few seconds it will turn back on and work just fine. 
This takes 2 watch batteries which were also kindly included. 


  The five function are like I said, strong ones! After a while though, they do leave my hands and lady bits sort of numb and tingly. The vibrations are buzzy and easily felt all over. The little Dream Bullet can be used for teasing, rubbing all over the body, insertion or for clitoral stimulation which is what it's best for. When on the pulsing speeds, it's a little loud, but not incredibly. It can't be heard through a closed door with a TV running. 


  There is a clear squishy button located at the very bottom. To turn the bullet on and to cycle through the speeds you use the button. It's convenient, but if an emergency situation occurs and you need to shut if off suddenly, it can be a little difficult to hurry and get it off. Just be sure you aren't expecting company when using! It's not really a big deal, you only have to push the button 6 times for it to power off, but it could be heard if someone were to walk in the room where you're at.

  It came in a very tasteful, plastic package with some information about the toy on it. It's phthalates free, water proof, multi function. The packaging is small and works perfect for storage, but you can simply slide this into a drawer or purse or even your pocket. Since it is hard plastic, it's safe to use all lubricants with it. I personally prefer Liquid Silk. The strong vibrations rubbing across your sweet spots against the slippery Liquid Silk make the sensations so much more intense! 


  My partner and I really love this little bullet! I've been keeping it in my purse for "on-the-go-play". Makes such a fun road trip vibe! It's a simple, easy to use, small and powerful little thing. I love it! 


Be sure to check out the other awesome and very, very  beautiful toys over at Dream Toys!




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Auric Blends Perfume Oils and Solids

Auric Blends is company clearly passionate about fragrance. They've been in business since 1993 and for Auric Blends, frangrance is art. A company where every product is specially and uniquely handcrafted, with 4 fragrance products being natural. How beautiful!

  The photo above is of the beautiful roll-on Perfume Oil "Love" by Auric Blends. A very unique, feminine and slightly floral scent that smells amazing on the skin.


  Perfumes smell different on different people's skin. Some perfume smells good in the bottle, but doesn't quite mix well when applied to the skin. When I smelled Love, I really hoped it would smell just as amazing on my skin as it does in the bottle. It did! I love Love!

  In some strange way, the scent really does smell the way I think love would smell. Funny, but the name truly fits! I like that it's a light scent, one where once you get close enough to get a small whiff of it, you want more. It's not like most perfumes I've had. It kind of reminds me of spring & the ocean all in one and to my nose, it has light hints of clean linen. While it's not over powering and doesn't cause a headache, it's the perfect amount. Just enough to fall in love with. It's such a clean, pretty scent if that makes sense.

  The roll-on bottle shown in the photo above is a 1/3 ounce bottle of Love. It's enough to last quite a while. I love the roll-on perfume oils. Instead of having a bulky, possibly leaky bottle, you have a compact, easy-to-use perfume that can be stashed in your purse for anytime use. That's something I love! I also think these are super amazing for gift giving. The beautiful, unqiue scents and pretty bottles (not to mention wonderful price for such high quality smellin') are just perfect for giving as a gift. I've already been pondering over which scents to purchase for my sisters. Guess who's getting Auric Blends for Christmas? Me! ... I mean my sisters! (Ha. Ha.)

  Auric Blends also has a really beautiful line of Perfumse Solid as well. Take a look...

 
The unique, pretty container houses a solid Black Coconut perfume. The photo above is the little house. It's very shiny so one of the little holes in it look like there's something white like sand stuck in there. It's not, that's just the shiny glass and the flash of my camera.

  Take a look at the perfume's home opened...

    How cute that it has it's own little house! I love this thing. It just looks so creative sitting on my vanity. I simply take the top off and glide the perfume solid over my wrists and neck and wow! I have a light touch of sweet, tropical skin! I love everything coconut. The scent, the taste, even the sound of it. Thing is, I've never found a coconut fragrance that didn't make me smell like either a candle or tanning oil! I love the coconut candles and tanning oils, but I don't want my perfume to smell like them.  Auric Blend's Black Coconut Perfume Solid is just perfect. It's not over powering and did give me a nice bit of extra moisture on my wrists.

  One of my favorite things about Auric Blends (besides the super unique, beautiful scents) is that their perfume oils do NOT leave your skin with a nasty, thick greasy residue. I love perfume oils, but all of my perfume oils leave me with the worst sticky, greasy feeling. I have one in particular that I loved, but had to stop wearing on my neck and chest because I would feel the skin under my neck stick to my chest when I tilted my head down! Now that's too much sticky for a perfume. So, here's where I give some serious kudos to the wonderful Auric Blends for their absolute perfection. Kudos, kudos, kudos!


  Auric Blend's fragrances are absolutely perfect for those who can't handle an overpowering perfume or those who are picky when it comes to the cheap, typical perfumes. I've never had so much to say about a perfume until I used Auric Blends! There's certainly nothing else like their scents. I've used Egyptian Goddess, Love and Water Goddess, all are they kind of perfume that make a girl stand out in such a subtle yet distinctive way. It's the kind of perfume that people say "what is that you're wearing?!" I've had nothing but compliments when wearing any of them. I just can't wait to try the other fragrances!

  I'm highly impressed with the Auric Blends fragrance lines. I will definitely buy from them. On a 1-10 rating scale, the products are an absolute 10. Nothing like them! Very inexpensive and super long lasting scents.



 * I recieved no monetary compensation for this review. The words written are absolutely my own and my opinion is in no way persuaded or biased. I was given the fragrance items in exchange for a 100% honest review. See my honesty pledge at the top of the page for more info.*

Should we teach our kids about hatred?

 This past month, I've heard a lot of talk about hatred. Way more than I'm used to and far more than I prefer. But it's really made me think about things. A few weeks ago, I over heard my sister telling someone that she hoped that her daughter would learn to hate me. She said, when she's got her child and I no longer see her or care for her, she will teach her to hate me. She laughed at the thought of that baby, whom I've cared for her entire life, hating me.

 I was speechless when she said that. Even more so, I was hurt that any person could wish their own child to have hatred in their heart. That will destroy a person so why would a mother wish for her child to hate the person who's given up their life to care for her.

 Besides that, hate is such a powerful thing. It's so serious yet people use it like it's nothing. You never really know the intensity and harshness of the word until you hear a child tell you "I hate you." That is one of the most hurtful things for a mother to hear.

 When I was a kid, I was taught to never hate. I said "I hate you" to my mother one time. And one time only. It hurt her feelings and I never said it again. I try not to even use the word now. I certainly don't say I hate any person. I may dislike them but I don't hate.

 What I'm getting at is, as adults, we have lived and learned. We know what hatred and bitterness causes. Why would we allow hatred to enter our children's lives after knowing what we do about it?

 The kids know better than to use that word with me. I've taught them how powerful it is. I understand we all say things that we don't mean and we can all be severely rude sometimes, but who in their right mind would want to instill hatred in their children's lives? It's too dangerous.

*Do you teach your child not to hate?  Do you think it's important to teach them not to hate? *

A little update on my recent activity

 If you have read my last post, you know I've been having some issues and very discouraging ones at that. I just wanted to say a few things on the whole matter.

 First, I should mention just how down I was, letting guilt hold me back, etc. Then I opened messages from Sam from http://sam-huh.blogspot.com/ and Hanis from  http://keepthisonealiveinstead.blogspot.com/ they were both such a huge comfort.

 Sam gave me an amazing and kind piece of advice. She told me just what I needed to hear while dealing with some situations. She reminded me that I am a christian and everything I do reflects on my relationship with God. I realized that I haven't handled my recent problems in the best way.

  Hanis was very understanding and her message really brightened my day, showed me that I'm not alone. :) Much love to those girls! (By the way, if you've not done so already, check out both of their blogs p.s. wonderful blogs!)

Now, I'm letting it go, I am handing the entire thing over to God & trusting that he will handle it. After all, he is capable of much more than I am. I do apologize for showing my lack of control on here this week. It was terrible.

 The thing is God has been dealing with me in an area that I really suck at: confrontation, standing up for myself. Instead of standing up for myself, I totally went off this week. That's not acceptable behavior, not to me. I'm better than that. I don't have enemies so I haven't had uch experience in dealing with them. I've had people hurt me, terribly and I usually bless the person who's hurt me and go on. Lately, it's been more complicated. I'm sure many of you can relate to where I'm coming from.

Anyways, a BIG thank you to Sam & Hanis who has helped me have more hope, faith, encouragement.

 Now, this doesn't mean that I'm going to allow people to continue to run me over. I'm just going to deal with it the way I normally do. God's way.

 And I of all people know that those who deliberately hurt God's people, will experience God's wrath. God  will repay those who hurt you.

 ..."Do not take revenge my friends, but leave room for God's wrath"
      ~God will repay those who hurt you.~

             Now, that is comforting.


So, here's to me forgiving, leaving it to God, and being forgiven myself for the sins I committed.



 But, to all of those who truly do bully people, to all of those who have been disturbingly cruel to me & others, I hope you learn from my situation. I hope you will think twice before hurting someone. There is a difference in disagreeing with someone and being cruel. And to those of you who had no idea of my situation and judged me, I ask that you don't do that until you know 100% all of the facts/story.

My PeArL of the day - Saturday

 Today, my PeArL of the day is just a small one, a little saying I write on my mirror in marker. I like it and I hope y'all like it too!

 "A real woman stands up for what she believes in, even if it means being hated for it. A real woman takes no less than what she deserves. A real woman does not reminisce her past mistakes, but learns from them & looks to the future for better. A real woman does not give up but presses on. A real woman is totally faithful to those she loves. A real woman shows strong faith in the hard times, not only the easy ones."

-Kendra Richards

 I know, it may not be the prettiest little words in the world, but to me, these few sentences are what gets me through. They are what reminds me of my strength and faith. Without faith, you have nothing. I hope it can bring you some joy too, I know it's not as fun as my usualy PeArLs (..or are they even fun?! lol) but, I thought maybe just one of you would find hope in it.

Blessings and much love to y'all!

My PeArL of the day

 My PeArL of the day...


 And Jesus said unto them..., "If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain remove hence to younder place and it shall move and nothing shall be impossible to you."

 I wanted to post this as my PeArL of the day because this specific verse has great value to me at this point in my life. I am going through a really terrible time and I found this verse helpful (especially if spoken aloud and meditated on)

 So, I thought I'd share with you, my inspiration. I hope this will bring you comfort too. I always like to confess the word of God. It has so much power when spoken aloud. Meditating on the word is another powerful way to overcome anything! Just try it.

                      PROPOSING

 I haven't really gotten deep into my personal life on this blog but, I think I'll do that right now. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We plan to get married but we've had it put off until we both finish school & such. We talk about being married everyday and just like every woman, I've had my perfect wedding planned out for years. I know every detail of what I want. But, when he actually offically asks me, I don't know where and how I want it to go. He's asked me to give him ideas on what I would consider the perfct proposal but, I just don't know. Of course I'm not going to tell him how to ask me but, it'd be nice if either of us knew what or where and how would make it super special.

 I don't think Mcdonalds is a special place lol so, what are your ideas? What are your stories and what would you consider "romantic" ? Leave me YOUR advice

Women - crazy, overly emotional wacko's or just simply human?

 For centuries women have had this reputation of being overly-emotional-whacko's-that expect men to be mind readers. Have you ever wondered why women do these things that seem so bizarre? Well, I am here to further explain... and hopefully change your mind! If I fail then, I do apologize but, please be a little open minded.

 Let me just simplify this:

Women: when men have done something that upsets us we put on our "bitch face" and refuse to speak.

Men: Eventually realize the problem isn't going away so they ask "What is wrong?" This usually results in the man being chewed out and possibly even given a black eye. Then, in most cases the female will say something along the lines of "you mean to tell me, you have no idea why I'm upset?" The male is totally confused. What do we think men are mind readers? That's probably what the man will say in these situations.

Women: We don't see it that way. We see it as he upset us. Now, he's no clue why we're upset and thinks we think he's a mind reader. We don't expect men to be mind readers, just body language readers. It's not easy to just come out and say "Look, you are pissing me off." We use body language to speak just as much as we use words to speak. So, we just think men are crazy for not noticing we're pissed.

 So, really all most women want (in this particular area) is for the male to notice her upsets and to us, noticing = caring. When the male addresses the reason why she's upset, that can make a world of difference. Nobody wins! or, even better everybody wins!

You see? You address her needs, and she's happy. When she's happy, she makes YOU happy. Are you with me here?

My PeArL of the day

 This is my PeArL of the day well, him, not me! lol anyways, this is my very loving, and kind boyfriend (4yrs now) we were in the tower at the chickamauga battlefield. Not a very good picture of either of us. We were all sweaty and exhausted, & not to mention looked like hell lol from climbing this tower. Note to self: NEVER decide to climb that tower again!

THE NEVER ENDING DEBATE ON "IS IT EVER OK TO GO THROUGH YOUR PARTNER'S TEXTS?"

 The debate on whether or not it's ok to read your partner's texts, emails, etc. has been an ongoing argument ever since I can remember. I'll tell you what I think about it.... Then, YOU tell ME what you think about it.... are you ready? (if you leave a comment with your thoughts, I'll publish it as a new post wth your link and name!)

  MY SIDE: 
I must say, this is a tough one but, I think if you have reason to believe that your partner is doing you dirty, then by all means READ THOSE TEXTS! ha, ha. Sorry, I had to say it. Nobody wants to be the fool that didn't see what was right in front of their eyes. I will admit, I am guilty of text-snooping. Not often, though. I had perfect reason to believe that an ex was cheating with his ex so I finally started calling his voicemail and listening to his messages, he didn't know, but I watched him type in his password to his voicemail! HA! We women can be sneaky. Anyways, sure enough, there was tons of vulgar texts and voicemails. He was cheating. So if I would'nt have done the text-snoop, there's no telling how long I would've stayed with that ass. See, sometimes there is a good reason for text-snooping.

 After I ended things with the ass, I got together with my current boyfriend (of 4 yrs now) and in the beginning, I was scared that it would happen again. So I went through this huge process of getting my current boyfriend's password to his phone, and you bet your sweet ass I snooped that thing! I called every number I seen. And.... He was actually innocent! I was so happy. I did tell him that I snooped though. I wanted to keep it 100% honest. He wasn't mad, he understood that I had been screwed over before and I was just being careful.

  Now, we are still together and happy as can be! So, the point is, I believe a couple should have trust and snoopin' should'nt be taken too far. If you have trust issues, resolve them together. If the trust issues are because the person you're with has done something to betray you or jepordize your trust then, just DUMP EM'

  YOUR TURN.....