PROPOSING

 I haven't really gotten deep into my personal life on this blog but, I think I'll do that right now. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We plan to get married but we've had it put off until we both finish school & such. We talk about being married everyday and just like every woman, I've had my perfect wedding planned out for years. I know every detail of what I want. But, when he actually offically asks me, I don't know where and how I want it to go. He's asked me to give him ideas on what I would consider the perfct proposal but, I just don't know. Of course I'm not going to tell him how to ask me but, it'd be nice if either of us knew what or where and how would make it super special.

 I don't think Mcdonalds is a special place lol so, what are your ideas? What are your stories and what would you consider "romantic" ? Leave me YOUR advice

Women - crazy, overly emotional wacko's or just simply human?

 For centuries women have had this reputation of being overly-emotional-whacko's-that expect men to be mind readers. Have you ever wondered why women do these things that seem so bizarre? Well, I am here to further explain... and hopefully change your mind! If I fail then, I do apologize but, please be a little open minded.

 Let me just simplify this:

Women: when men have done something that upsets us we put on our "bitch face" and refuse to speak.

Men: Eventually realize the problem isn't going away so they ask "What is wrong?" This usually results in the man being chewed out and possibly even given a black eye. Then, in most cases the female will say something along the lines of "you mean to tell me, you have no idea why I'm upset?" The male is totally confused. What do we think men are mind readers? That's probably what the man will say in these situations.

Women: We don't see it that way. We see it as he upset us. Now, he's no clue why we're upset and thinks we think he's a mind reader. We don't expect men to be mind readers, just body language readers. It's not easy to just come out and say "Look, you are pissing me off." We use body language to speak just as much as we use words to speak. So, we just think men are crazy for not noticing we're pissed.

 So, really all most women want (in this particular area) is for the male to notice her upsets and to us, noticing = caring. When the male addresses the reason why she's upset, that can make a world of difference. Nobody wins! or, even better everybody wins!

You see? You address her needs, and she's happy. When she's happy, she makes YOU happy. Are you with me here?

THE NEVER ENDING DEBATE ON "IS IT EVER OK TO GO THROUGH YOUR PARTNER'S TEXTS?"

 The debate on whether or not it's ok to read your partner's texts, emails, etc. has been an ongoing argument ever since I can remember. I'll tell you what I think about it.... Then, YOU tell ME what you think about it.... are you ready? (if you leave a comment with your thoughts, I'll publish it as a new post wth your link and name!)

  MY SIDE: 
I must say, this is a tough one but, I think if you have reason to believe that your partner is doing you dirty, then by all means READ THOSE TEXTS! ha, ha. Sorry, I had to say it. Nobody wants to be the fool that didn't see what was right in front of their eyes. I will admit, I am guilty of text-snooping. Not often, though. I had perfect reason to believe that an ex was cheating with his ex so I finally started calling his voicemail and listening to his messages, he didn't know, but I watched him type in his password to his voicemail! HA! We women can be sneaky. Anyways, sure enough, there was tons of vulgar texts and voicemails. He was cheating. So if I would'nt have done the text-snoop, there's no telling how long I would've stayed with that ass. See, sometimes there is a good reason for text-snooping.

 After I ended things with the ass, I got together with my current boyfriend (of 4 yrs now) and in the beginning, I was scared that it would happen again. So I went through this huge process of getting my current boyfriend's password to his phone, and you bet your sweet ass I snooped that thing! I called every number I seen. And.... He was actually innocent! I was so happy. I did tell him that I snooped though. I wanted to keep it 100% honest. He wasn't mad, he understood that I had been screwed over before and I was just being careful.

  Now, we are still together and happy as can be! So, the point is, I believe a couple should have trust and snoopin' should'nt be taken too far. If you have trust issues, resolve them together. If the trust issues are because the person you're with has done something to betray you or jepordize your trust then, just DUMP EM'

  YOUR TURN.....