Big IS beautiful too!

As you know, I dedicated a whole month to the bigger & beautiful women. It's taken me a while to get my posts going because I spent most of the month talking, interviewing, and finding out what these women had to say.

My interview with Kathy M. went deeper than I had expected. When I asked Miss Kathy how she felt about her self and her body she said "I could sit here & say that I am proud of who I am no matter how society looks at me but, that wouldn't be true." She told me that she didn't feel beautiful or happy. "I just don't know why bigger always has to mean less pretty." Kathy said. She also told me that most of the bigger women she associates with also are not happy with themselves often.

I asked Kathy what she thinks would make her feel happier & better about herself. I also asked her what she thought would make other women like her feel better about themselves.

She told me that she thinks that her being big means she can't dress stylish. "Big girls just can't do it." It really made me sad to hear that she truly felt this way. We talked about what kind of things Kathy wished she could wear. She said she just wanted to be able to wear things like a "belted tops, leggings and skirts."

I told Kathy that she CAN wear those things and look & feel good. She just has to find the right fit. "I want to shop at places like wet seal & rue 21." She told me. I replied with "Then do it." I told her that she is the only person that matters when it comes to what people think and I also told her that if she took the step to do these things then, maybe she could inspire others like her to do the same and allow themselves to feel happy & better about themselves.

A few days after talking with Kathy, I got a call from her. "I made my first purchase at rue 21!" She screamed. She was so excited. She finally had the courage to wear something that she wanted and she done it for herself. I was so proud of her. She told me that she hasn't yet got the nerve to try a skirt yet but she did go for the belted top & she loved the way it fit!

I hope that Kathy's courage will give other women the courage to do things like this & feel good about themselves too.

Kathy has plans this weekend to have her hair and nails done with a friend. I'm waiting to hear back from her & find out if she followed through with those plans. I really hope she did. After all she does deserve it. Every woman does.

What do you think would make you feel better about yourself? And what advice would you have for Kathy?