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TWINCIDENTS - Do twins feel each other's pain?
OK this is something that can be taken into deep detail and facts, etc. I don't care to go there. My answer is simply, yes sometimes twins do feel the other's pain! It's true for us and it's true for many twins.
When my twin and I were about 10 years old, one of our cousins who we didn't spend much time with outside of family gatherings and waiting for the bus, used to test us every single day we waited for the bus. He would punch me or my sister in the arm and when the other didn't say "ouch!" He'd make us. Lol. Sometimes I would get the punch and he'd make her say "Ouch!" and some days I was lucky, she'd get the punch and all I had to do was say ouch. Funny, but not logical. Twins don't feel everything the other feels, but they do feel and have very particular connections with each other that no other person can have or sometimes easily understand.
We've had our Twincidents forever and it's totally normal to us, but people around us will hear us talking and often flip out,.I'll let you in on a few incidents we've had.
Several years ago when my problems from endomteriosis and the yucky issues I've had since 13 just started becoming unbearable and I finally went to the hospital, the emergency room. My very first visit to the E.R. I was having extreme pain and couldn't bear it. I was also sick as hell which was usual since I had only weighed 70-something pounds by this time. I started hyperventilating and just got out of the shower and my hands and legs and face all kind of went paralyzed and crinkled up. I was able to dial my brother in law and then my hands were stuck in a weird closed up position and my lip done a weird thing and wouldn't move and my eyes twitched uncontrollably. Anyways, all those symptoms scared me bad enough to go to the hospital.
At this time my twin lived a good while away and we hadn't been able to get in touch for months. We went to the E.R. and by the time 3AM rolled around she called my cell phone and asked where's dad. I told her he was with me & when he hung up he told me she had been sent to the E.R. Not long after that a nurse came in, told me I was severely dehydrated, looked anorexic and "we will be looking in to this young lady!" and had laryngitis and bronchitis and had somehow developed asthma! The she said "Is it possible that you're twin is experiencing a case of feeling your pain?" I had no clue what she meant until she told me my twin was in the same hospital complaining of stroke like symptoms! I didn't believe her until she took me to her!
There my twin was lying in a bed hooked up to an EKG machine. The nurse said there wasn't a trace of anything. Nothing was wrong! She told us that my twin's stroke like symptoms appeared to be more like a serious panic over my pain. She hadn't known about my pain or trip to the E.R. We were both released, but until this year, I went through some suffering with the endo. and stuff.
I didn't find out I even had endo. until this year, but had awful symptoms and a lot of doctor visits. My poor sister! All these past several years of pain have been painful for her as well. She would wake up in the middle of the night and call asking if my stomach was upset again. She soon developed some of my anxiety and began having panic attacks. Every time she had those pains and upsets I had been sick. I would have episodes where the pain and disgusting symptoms would go 5 hours every time. Her's were lighter, but I've seen her suffer them.
It wasn't until I had my surgery this past year, started taking my meds for anxiety and pain that both of our problems subsided!
At first the BF thought our Twincidents were only that, incidents or coincidents. It didn't take him long to be shocked. The other day I had a tiny episode where I had the debilitating cramps where I couldn't move or even breathe. The pain gets so intense and endometriosis can cause the pain to shoot into your crotch and rear end! It feels like the bones in your crotch are moving. Some doctors call these pains contractions since they're very similar. To be honest, the pain is similar to the pain while having a miscarriage, if you're several months along. In fact, when I had my first miscarriage I thought it was only the endo. pain.
It usually passes quickly though and I'm kind of used to it, but the other night I had severe pain and after it went away, a dull pain lingered all night which is unusual. Yesterday while my twin and my BF and mother were all together she asked me if I had been sick. I said how many days ago? I told my BF to listen closely. She said 2. I said yes I had some problems did you? Yep. She said her a** as she would call it was killing her and her stomach felt like it was ripping apart. I looked at the BF & said "do you remember what happened to me 2 nights ago? What was I doing?" He answered & told her how I was doubled over in the kitchen with those cramps.
It's not always serious, but it happens. Last week I had pain in my left wrist, in the bones. I don't know why, but it strangely happens sometimes and I called and asked her if she'd had any pain. She told me she'd hurt her arm. Left one! So sometimes it really is more of a nuisance than fun. In fact I would never call if fun, but it can be very helpful.
Another one of our Twincidents happened when my twin was pregnant almost 2 years ago, she always told me I had better get to the hospital early to see the baby being born because I'd end up with her labor pains. I thought it couldn't happen like that for some reason and our older sister even laughed at her for mentioning it all the time. Well, last November she was in to have the baby & it was cold and dark and we were on our way to the hospital when I got my intense cramps that are similar to contractions for those with endo. Like I said, it usually passes quickly, but it's painful. I double over or clench my bed post or whatever's in my reach until it passes. Well, here we are on the way to the hospital, drinking coffee late at night, excited as hell and it's raining. We pulled over and waited for it to pass. It got much better & we were on our way. When we pulled in the parking lot I couldn't make it out of the car! I was in so much pain I thought I'd have to be admitted myself. It passed, we ran in to see my sister in the hospital.
She was fine. No pain. Nothing. I was fine until we'd been sitting with her for about an hour and on it came. She said "Oh my God you're feeling my contractions!" I wasn't amused at all and she insisted that was it as it kept happening every so often. Still I wasn't going to miss my Buggy being born. Our older sister thought it was hilarious, but I went through that damn pain until 2 AM! But poor thing, she did too. The baby had gotten turned the wrong way and she endured hours of excruciating pain before they finally decided to do a Cesarean when the baby's heart beat started dropping. She screamed, cussed and yelled for hours! Thankfully, it wasn't that bad for me.
Some people think it's crazy and that's OK. We don't mind and we don't usually talk about it to people except our family and each other, but twins do share a very unique bond I guess you could say. And not only with pain, but there are important things twins just know. Like finishing each other's sentences, but that can happen with a couple who's been together for years too.
I think twins have a special... gift. You know things without them being spoken. You know when something's wrong with the other and you have senses that aren't there with other family members. My twin and I have the same dream, nightmare. For months now we've dreamed of us being in a car crash. Sometimes it's different, but it's always this strange, horrible feeling that you can't shake. It's nothing like any nightmare I've ever had. Every so often when those dreams happen, hers will come around the same time. In every one it's a car accident. One I had was of us both in her red car dangling off the side of the mountain we live on and she was slipping out the window. It still gives me the creeps. And most of them, she's alone. The last one her car was blown up with her inside of it and I kept yelling, like in every nightmare "I cannot be alive with out her." I know it sounds downright psychotic, but I don't have an answer for it.
Anyways, she has similar dreams only it's of me and they're a bit different. She did have the dream of me driving off our mountain the same month I dreamt it. It shakes me up so badly I don't even know how to explain it.
Enough of that, I hope it's been interesting or at least helpful or even just a good read. I would however really love more than anything to hear from other twins or from you all who know of any twincidents. It's hard to find info on the subject and even understand it sometimes and I've searched for answers or other people's stories for years. I would love to hear anything you may know. Anything you wonder about or find interesting or have heard about twins. I don't know many other twins and certainly don't know anyone who can begin to relate with us, but Kelly and I are dying to hear from other people. I've looked for info in books and haven't found anything.
OK this is something that can be taken into deep detail and facts, etc. I don't care to go there. My answer is simply, yes sometimes twins do feel the other's pain! It's true for us and it's true for many twins.
When my twin and I were about 10 years old, one of our cousins who we didn't spend much time with outside of family gatherings and waiting for the bus, used to test us every single day we waited for the bus. He would punch me or my sister in the arm and when the other didn't say "ouch!" He'd make us. Lol. Sometimes I would get the punch and he'd make her say "Ouch!" and some days I was lucky, she'd get the punch and all I had to do was say ouch. Funny, but not logical. Twins don't feel everything the other feels, but they do feel and have very particular connections with each other that no other person can have or sometimes easily understand.
We've had our Twincidents forever and it's totally normal to us, but people around us will hear us talking and often flip out,.I'll let you in on a few incidents we've had.
Several years ago when my problems from endomteriosis and the yucky issues I've had since 13 just started becoming unbearable and I finally went to the hospital, the emergency room. My very first visit to the E.R. I was having extreme pain and couldn't bear it. I was also sick as hell which was usual since I had only weighed 70-something pounds by this time. I started hyperventilating and just got out of the shower and my hands and legs and face all kind of went paralyzed and crinkled up. I was able to dial my brother in law and then my hands were stuck in a weird closed up position and my lip done a weird thing and wouldn't move and my eyes twitched uncontrollably. Anyways, all those symptoms scared me bad enough to go to the hospital.
At this time my twin lived a good while away and we hadn't been able to get in touch for months. We went to the E.R. and by the time 3AM rolled around she called my cell phone and asked where's dad. I told her he was with me & when he hung up he told me she had been sent to the E.R. Not long after that a nurse came in, told me I was severely dehydrated, looked anorexic and "we will be looking in to this young lady!" and had laryngitis and bronchitis and had somehow developed asthma! The she said "Is it possible that you're twin is experiencing a case of feeling your pain?" I had no clue what she meant until she told me my twin was in the same hospital complaining of stroke like symptoms! I didn't believe her until she took me to her!
There my twin was lying in a bed hooked up to an EKG machine. The nurse said there wasn't a trace of anything. Nothing was wrong! She told us that my twin's stroke like symptoms appeared to be more like a serious panic over my pain. She hadn't known about my pain or trip to the E.R. We were both released, but until this year, I went through some suffering with the endo. and stuff.
I didn't find out I even had endo. until this year, but had awful symptoms and a lot of doctor visits. My poor sister! All these past several years of pain have been painful for her as well. She would wake up in the middle of the night and call asking if my stomach was upset again. She soon developed some of my anxiety and began having panic attacks. Every time she had those pains and upsets I had been sick. I would have episodes where the pain and disgusting symptoms would go 5 hours every time. Her's were lighter, but I've seen her suffer them.
It wasn't until I had my surgery this past year, started taking my meds for anxiety and pain that both of our problems subsided!
At first the BF thought our Twincidents were only that, incidents or coincidents. It didn't take him long to be shocked. The other day I had a tiny episode where I had the debilitating cramps where I couldn't move or even breathe. The pain gets so intense and endometriosis can cause the pain to shoot into your crotch and rear end! It feels like the bones in your crotch are moving. Some doctors call these pains contractions since they're very similar. To be honest, the pain is similar to the pain while having a miscarriage, if you're several months along. In fact, when I had my first miscarriage I thought it was only the endo. pain.
It usually passes quickly though and I'm kind of used to it, but the other night I had severe pain and after it went away, a dull pain lingered all night which is unusual. Yesterday while my twin and my BF and mother were all together she asked me if I had been sick. I said how many days ago? I told my BF to listen closely. She said 2. I said yes I had some problems did you? Yep. She said her a** as she would call it was killing her and her stomach felt like it was ripping apart. I looked at the BF & said "do you remember what happened to me 2 nights ago? What was I doing?" He answered & told her how I was doubled over in the kitchen with those cramps.
It's not always serious, but it happens. Last week I had pain in my left wrist, in the bones. I don't know why, but it strangely happens sometimes and I called and asked her if she'd had any pain. She told me she'd hurt her arm. Left one! So sometimes it really is more of a nuisance than fun. In fact I would never call if fun, but it can be very helpful.
Another one of our Twincidents happened when my twin was pregnant almost 2 years ago, she always told me I had better get to the hospital early to see the baby being born because I'd end up with her labor pains. I thought it couldn't happen like that for some reason and our older sister even laughed at her for mentioning it all the time. Well, last November she was in to have the baby & it was cold and dark and we were on our way to the hospital when I got my intense cramps that are similar to contractions for those with endo. Like I said, it usually passes quickly, but it's painful. I double over or clench my bed post or whatever's in my reach until it passes. Well, here we are on the way to the hospital, drinking coffee late at night, excited as hell and it's raining. We pulled over and waited for it to pass. It got much better & we were on our way. When we pulled in the parking lot I couldn't make it out of the car! I was in so much pain I thought I'd have to be admitted myself. It passed, we ran in to see my sister in the hospital.
She was fine. No pain. Nothing. I was fine until we'd been sitting with her for about an hour and on it came. She said "Oh my God you're feeling my contractions!" I wasn't amused at all and she insisted that was it as it kept happening every so often. Still I wasn't going to miss my Buggy being born. Our older sister thought it was hilarious, but I went through that damn pain until 2 AM! But poor thing, she did too. The baby had gotten turned the wrong way and she endured hours of excruciating pain before they finally decided to do a Cesarean when the baby's heart beat started dropping. She screamed, cussed and yelled for hours! Thankfully, it wasn't that bad for me.
Some people think it's crazy and that's OK. We don't mind and we don't usually talk about it to people except our family and each other, but twins do share a very unique bond I guess you could say. And not only with pain, but there are important things twins just know. Like finishing each other's sentences, but that can happen with a couple who's been together for years too.
I think twins have a special... gift. You know things without them being spoken. You know when something's wrong with the other and you have senses that aren't there with other family members. My twin and I have the same dream, nightmare. For months now we've dreamed of us being in a car crash. Sometimes it's different, but it's always this strange, horrible feeling that you can't shake. It's nothing like any nightmare I've ever had. Every so often when those dreams happen, hers will come around the same time. In every one it's a car accident. One I had was of us both in her red car dangling off the side of the mountain we live on and she was slipping out the window. It still gives me the creeps. And most of them, she's alone. The last one her car was blown up with her inside of it and I kept yelling, like in every nightmare "I cannot be alive with out her." I know it sounds downright psychotic, but I don't have an answer for it.
Anyways, she has similar dreams only it's of me and they're a bit different. She did have the dream of me driving off our mountain the same month I dreamt it. It shakes me up so badly I don't even know how to explain it.
Enough of that, I hope it's been interesting or at least helpful or even just a good read. I would however really love more than anything to hear from other twins or from you all who know of any twincidents. It's hard to find info on the subject and even understand it sometimes and I've searched for answers or other people's stories for years. I would love to hear anything you may know. Anything you wonder about or find interesting or have heard about twins. I don't know many other twins and certainly don't know anyone who can begin to relate with us, but Kelly and I are dying to hear from other people. I've looked for info in books and haven't found anything.
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