How to determine whether or not he's the one

There have been many "tests" over the years on how to determine if he's the one. At some point we all wonder if he/she is the one. But how do we actually know what to go by before saying I do? Well thats where I come into play & tell you just how you determine whether or not he has the qualities of being the one.

Quality number 1:
How does he treat his mother?
Is he respectful to her? Does he raise his voice or treat her with unkindness? This is an important thing to find out. Chances are the man your so deeply in love with will more than likely treat you with the same respect or lack of respect he shows towards his own mother. Sounds strange but if you really test it you'll see. Paying attention to things like this can really open your eyes to what your relationship may hold.

Quality number 2:
Does he care for you when you're sick?
This is another very important thing to know before going to deep into a relationship. Let him see you sick when women are sick we tend to be a little bit on the helpless side & need some extra help. Does he bring you tissues so you don't have to get up with that pounding headache, is he patient, caring & loving or does he act like he'd rather be snoozing until noon on a buddy's couch? You don't want to wait until you're married to find out that he doesn't care enough to help you out a little & show you the care you deserve.

Quality number 3:
How does he act around other women?
We all can agree that this is one is top of the list important. When you both are out somewhere with friends or a group socializing, steal a few glances at him while your chatting with the girlfriends & see just how he acts toward other women. This does not mean set him up to sleep with your best friend just see if he feels the need to flirt. Chances are if he's flirting heavy then he's not commitment ready. This doesn't mean call it off completely just try having a serious talk with him & let him know that it's not ok to embarrass you & disrespect you in such a way. If he's fine with that then you could have a good chance. however, if he blows up & gets really defensive then he probably doesn't want to committ to just one woman or either he needs to boost his ego. Thats not ok. If you're not enough for him then no body will be he still needs time to mature & see that ego is not everything. Faithfullness is important if he can't be completely 100% faithfull then he is NOT the one. If he does truly love you then he won't see other women, he'll only have eyes for you & it will show!

Quality number 4:
How does he act when you fight?
Does he blow up, over react, or get too defensive? Can he own up when he makes a mistake? These are all qualities that can be improved that is unless he says or does things to hurt you or your feelings when he's upset, verbally abusive, abusive, violent, etc. If he falls under any of those categories then drop him now! If he can keep his cool & deal with things rationally then he could be husband material. Make sure he listens & finds what you have to say important. If he doesnt care to listen now, then he wont ever. Every couple fights, it doesn't mean they won't make it but both people have to compromise. You can find a way to work things out to where you're both happy. & If he truly cares then it will be important that you're happy as well.

Quality number 5:
How well does he treat others?
Is he rude, uncaring, & disrespectful to those around him (co-workers, or people who are beneath him professionally, service personnel) or is he the stop & ask if you need help changing a tire kind of guy? I'll be the first to tell you, you do not want a man who's rude to others, even strangers or if he treats others as if he is better than them or that the rest of society owes him something. Men like that are always self centered & thats the last thing you want. If he's good to others then great. If he's just a little rough around the edges then you could work on that. Just mention it after the waitress says how are you & he says fine & continues to order just say hey, next time why don't we ask her how she's doing too? Or when it happens You start speaking up. When the waitress says hello, how are you? you say "Fine, thank you & how are you" say it loud & clear so he hears you. It will catch his attention & very soon he will begin to form the friendly habit.

Quality number 6:
Who comes first?
This seems to be a tough one for most women. Does he regularly stand you up to go hang with his friends? Does he blow you off because they want to do something with only him, does he ask you to come along, or does he make time for you both equally? What woman wants to be left alone in a basement full of beer drinking men watching the game? We don't consider that a date it also doesnt count as spending time with us. There comes a time when the woman should come first i.e. He's with his guy friends hanging out & you call to ask if he can pick up something at the store on his way over does he say hey I gotta go my girlfriend needs me or is he more like the "yeah, yeah, whatever I'll get around to it when I feel like it" type? If so then he's lacking total respect for you & more than likely does not care enough to bother making things work. You will probably end up more frustrated & disappointed than happy.

Quality number 7:
Are you his "princess"?
Does he pamper you? Note that pamper is not the same as spoil it does not mean that he bows down to you just that he can celebrate his appreciation for you as a woman. And EVERY woman deserves it. If he's the type that does not want to show you you're special, important & different from any other woman, then you should really figure out whether it's really worth it to be with someone who does not treat you special & let you know how much your loved. Not many women would prefer this kind of relationship. We all desire some kind of special appreciation, the kind of love that he only shows you.

Quality number 8:
Is he a power holder?
Does he feel that in order to be in any relationship someone has to hold the power or is he fine with equality? This must be something you know before you ever become serious with a person. It could mean serious control issues & could do alot of damage to you. Usually you can tell whether or not he needs some kind of power in a relationship very early. Does he give you orders or commands? Does he say what goes or does he take your needs & wants into full consideration too? If he needs to have control over you then it would be in your best interest to get out asap! A man like that will not make you happy or make you feel special you'll end up feeling like your duty is to please him. or else.